According to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, one out of every two marriages today ends in divorce- many of which include children. This is a huge concern to society in general and to parents in a bad relationship in particular. In fact, one of the biggest concerns that parents have is how the divorce will affect their children.
Children are especially effected by threats to their security and because of this divorces can be especially frightening and confusing to kids. This change to the children involves everyone that those children interact with, especially childcare providers like teachers, daycare providers, and afterschool care providers. It is lucky, then, that there are many materials out there to help childcare providers support children who are witnessing a divorce.
Some such materials are provided by the Purdue University extension program. One of the biggest providers of scientific, research-based information and education, Purdue Extension is part of the Corporative Extension Service, a network of colleges, universities, and the Dept. of Agriculture.
Their website is a great source for information and they have a wonderful area on their site about children who have to deal with divorce drawn from scientific studies and research. It explains the ages and stages that come into play with divorce, and compares how different ages react differently to a divorce and stages of how they deal with it.
It also explains just what makes a difference in the lives of children going through a divorce and how best to prepare children for a divorce, including the level of conflict between parents, how the information is presented, and how to increase the level of social support present for kids. There is also information on the difference between boys and girls going through divorce and what that means for them.
One of the most important things, however, is to make sure that everyone involved has the chance to spend time with the children. Keith Krach, a Purdue trustee, explains that it's difficult- especially when kids are involved in a lot of different activities.
"The transition from the traditional kind of parenting was obviously a big change," he explained when discussing how difficult his family's schedule was. "Communication is absolutely key, and making sure you have a big family calendar is a necessity."
But despite all that, Krach explains that it is absolutely necessary to make time for them.
"I've always had a very interesting life and travel a lot, but my highest priority is my kids," details Keith Krach. "I will change anything on my schedule for them. The time I cherish most is with them."
Emily Rouse is a graduate student and big sister whose parents divorced when she was 16. Her sources for this article include:
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